Why is it so difficult to live? Why does life seem so complicated? Why are order and consistency out of reach? Why is there this constant feeling of heaviness, pain, pressure, despondence, emptiness, exhaustion and burnout? Why is it so difficult to achieve your goals, big or small? Even the basic daily tasks seem impossibly …
A selfless person is someone who cares for other people’s needs and desires more than for her own needs and desires. When bringing up and socialising children our society encourages selflessness. Selflessness is told to be a virtue. And so because we are told that this is something good, something to strive towards, something to …
You may have had an experience of someone offering you their help and when you say no, they just would not let go and keep insisting on helping you until you give in. Let’s have a look at what’s going on here. This is one of the disordered person’s strategies to gain control over you. …
A narcissist does not take no for an answer when you refuse their help? Read More »
A relationship with a narcissist can often lead to a state of learned helplessness. The closer the relationship, the higher the chance that we can develop it. Learned helplessness is a permeating sense of powerlessness which we adopt when we feel that we cannot deal with a difficult situation because we cannot either confront or …
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The reality is that a narcissist cannot love. They are simply incapable of this feeling. They do, however, use the notion of love as a bargaining tool to get what they want from their partner. Here by “partner” I mean a participant of any close relationship, be it a parent and child, a husband and …
What is our innate power? I see it as our personal force built and sustained upon the following: Our sense of self Our instincts Our spirit Our freedom Our sense of agency Our autonomy Our choice and decision-making Our rights Our personal responsibility for ourselves Our joy and passion Our confidence Our trust in ourselves …
I believe our power is our sense of self. The stronger it is, the stronger we are. The better we see and know ourselves, the more powerful we feel. How can a narcissist cause us to lose our sense of self? Narcissists can affect our sense of self both when we are children and adults. …
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If you have been in a relationship with a narcissist, especially raised by one, you may find that you struggle in life. That struggle comes from the impact the narcissist’s insanity has had on your psyche. Being around the narcissist with his sick and twisted mind has disturbed your inner peace. Being who you are …
Have you ever experienced talking to someone and realising that the other person cannot hear you? They cannot hear you not in terms of physical hearing but in terms of taking in what you say, considering it and giving you constructive feedback. You get an impression that you talk to an empty space, that you …
This is very painful. To think, to even consider the concept of meeting your grief for your loss, makes you shudder and want to run away. But there’s nowhere to run away from it. Well, not really. It’s always here, at the outskirts of your consciousness. So here we are. Maybe if we face it …
What have we lost? Healing grief after narcissistic abuse. Read More »
